Disclaimer
As an affiliate, we may earn a commission from qualifying purchases. We get commissions for purchases made through links on this website from Amazon and other third parties.
We are a professional review company that receives compensation from companies whose products we review. We test each product thoroughly and give high marks only to the ones that are the very best. We are independently owned, and the opinions expressed here are our own.
I used to think love had to be big, dramatic gestures. Candlelit dinners, surprise weekends away, grand declarations.
But over time — and through a few relationships that didn’t quite go the way I’d hoped — I learned something surprising:
Sometimes it’s the most minor things that make him feel most safe with you.
When a man feels safe, his guard comes down.
He stops holding back, starts opening up, and begins to imagine a future with you that’s not just exciting — it’s secure.
Here are seven small but powerful ways you can create that same feeling in his heart.
When you hold his gaze for just an extra beat, you’re telling him, without words, “I see you, and I like what I see.”
It communicates warmth, trust, and confidence — and it can even trigger oxytocin, the “bonding hormone” that deepens emotional connection.
Here are more ways to use body language to captivate a man if you’d like to build on this simple but powerful gesture.
2. Touch Him Gently at Unexpected Moments
A light touch on his arm as you walk past, brushing your hand over his shoulder when you greet him, or resting your hand briefly on his back — these tiny moments can make him feel grounded and cared for.
Touch is one of the most primal forms of reassurance.
If you want to explore more ways to build closeness through touch, see my guide on how to deepen intimacy with a man.
3. Remember the Little Details He Shares
It’s one thing to nod while he talks — it’s another to remember the name of his colleague he mentioned last week or the way he takes his coffee.
Remembering small details tells him you value what he says, and that builds enormous trust.
You can read more on building an emotional connection with a man if you’d like to strengthen this even further.
4. Give Him Space Without Pulling Away Yourself
Men need moments of space to process and recharge. The difference between space and distance is that space feels respectful, while distance feels cold.
When you give him room to breathe while keeping your emotional presence, he’ll feel more drawn to you.
Here’s how to unlock his heart so he feels safe choosing you.
5. Use “We” More Than “You” or “I”
Language shapes how we see our relationships.
When you use “we” — as in “We should try that restaurant” or “We’ve got this” — you’re reinforcing the idea that you’re a team.
This subtle shift can make him feel more secure in your bond.
Here’s the method I recommend for inspiring lifelong commitment.
6. Share New Experiences
Trying something new — even something small like cooking a different recipe or exploring a nearby town — creates a sense of “us against the world.”
These shared memories become emotional anchors, reminding him of the joy he feels in your company.
7. Let Him Know He’s Your Safe Place Too
Reciprocity matters. When you let him see that he is where you feel safe, it encourages him to lean into you emotionally.
Men often need permission to be vulnerable — and when you give it, you deepen the bond.
There’s a simple shift I learned that makes a man open up emotionally and feel safe committing to you — I explain it in this short free video.
The Science Behind Women’s “Call” — An Innate Ability to Attract
Recently, researchers Caroline Griggs and Rachel Pelletier (2025) explored a fascinating aspect of women’s natural ability to attract men. They call it “Call” — a conscious, volitional power some women report being able to use to draw attention without saying a word.
In their study of more than 2,000 women across the U.S., only 1 in 4 scored above average on the Call scale, suggesting that while the ability is universal in theory, only a minority of women actively access or harness it. What’s even more interesting is that women who scored higher on Call also tended to be more extroverted and open. They showed a strong link between this attraction ability and their sexual esteem.
So what does this mean for you? It reinforces the idea that tiny gestures, done with intention, can flip a man’s subconscious attraction switch. Call isn’t about being “the prettiest woman in the room.” It’s about learning to use subtle cues — like eye contact, posture, and touch — in a way that makes a man feel pulled toward you almost involuntarily.
Source: Griggs & Pelletier, The Female Power of Volitional Attraction: The Concept of Call, 2025, SSRN
Final Thoughts
These gestures might seem tiny, but when they’re genuine, they create an environment where love doesn’t just grow — it thrives.
Start with one or two, and you might be surprised by how quickly he begins to relax, trust, and open his heart.
If you’d like to see exactly how to take these gestures and turn them into lasting emotional commitment, watch this free video.
With love,
Melanie Adams