From here, you have a few more things that you can keep in consideration, but don’t obsess over them too much; they will come naturally to you if you truly allow yourself to flow in the direction you feel connected with. Take this as some supportive guidance:
Managing emotions and nonverbal assertiveness
Body language, whether you like it or not, it is a thing, and you also need to keep your body movements into account, as well as observing others. You might have a more intuitive perception versus an observant one, making you choose the subtle messages, and trust me, it’s great, but you can’t bypass the physical part.
One reason why you need to focus on staying calm, and not only hiding it. Your body language can give away signs you don’t want to show, so it is best to take a moment to ground yourself first. Using breathing and pausing techniques will be a great choice here. A good advice for emotional regulation is for you to have a memory or “safe zone” that you can easy go by visualizing it. Use this when you really need a moment.
The best advice is starting small and focusing on small-risk scenarios first. Put yourself at the spot, but always in control in how far you want to go. Keep in mind that shifting in how to be assertive comes with learning from each interaction. Little by little, you keep gaining experience.
Conclusion
It is important you always have a degree of assertivess. You don’t have to shift your personality, but if you keep these few things into account, you can continue being yourself without getting trampled by today’s society.
The best turbulent vs assertive outcome is that as an assertive person, you will be a lot less vulnerable to stress (not inmune however), and you will always have a stronger resilience to keep pushing forward when necessary. By archieving goals, enabling self-expression, and empowerment, as well knowing yourself well, will start a transformative shift in your life.
FAQ
Q: What is assertive communication?
A: When you state your thoughts and emotions clearly, taking into account your needs as well as the rights and opinions of others, you are promoting assertive communication.
Q: How can being assertive help reduce stress?
A: Promoting a balanced, and clear communication with boundaries, you will foster positive connections, reducing conflicts and unnecessary struggles or worries.
Q: What is the difference between assertive and aggressive behavior?
A: The difference here is that the aggressive behavior will always push self’s needs to a point of hostility, while assertive communication respects the needs and desires of others.
Q: How can I become more assertive if I’m naturally shy?
A: You need to start building it up slowly, where you focus on small and easier-to-do behavioral steps towards accomplishing your goals and communicating efficiently.
Q: What nonverbal cues show assertiveness?
A: Some traits include the ability of direct eye contact (except for assertive empaths), a clear tone of voice, great body posture, and purposeful hand gestures, showing engagement and confidence.
Q: When should someone consider assertiveness training?
A: If you find yourself not speaking up, procrastinating, not accomplishing your goals, and being driven away by others all the time, you need to start learning how to be assertive.
Q: Can assertiveness improve communication at work?
A: Absolutely, normally it is appreciated and well received. It will promote productivity, trust, and the overall positivity in the work environment, magnifying satisfaction.
Whether it is imbued in your personality, or you are working your way on how to be assertive, one thing is guaranteed: results! If you give your best, one step at a time, you will see yourself shifting into your best version.
Next month, it’s November’s Monthly Tarot Reading time, and we will talk about the following Tarot Card: The Star. You will also have a couple or three questions related to this card for you to reflect on. The guided meditation “The Star” card will be available to purchase. Stay tuned for next Wednesday!
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