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She’s gone. Or at least it feels like it.
Maybe she’s seeing someone else. Maybe she’s cold or unbothered when you text.
You keep thinking, “How do I make her want me back—when she seems completely over me?”
I’ve been there. And here’s the truth:
You can’t talk her into missing you.
You can’t beg her into coming back.
But you can spark attraction again—if you approach it right.
Here are 7 steps to help make your ex girlfriend want you back, even if she’s moved on.
1. Stop Chasing Her (Even If It Hurts)
The more you chase, text, and check in… the more she pulls away.
It confirms that you’re still the same guy she walked away from.
When you stop chasing, you create space. That space can trigger curiosity, even regret.
And that’s your first win.
➡️ Related: Feel Like My Girlfriend Is Losing Interest? Here’s What to Do
2. Become the Man She Regrets Losing
This isn’t about pretending.
It’s about growth.
Start doing the things you said you would when you were with her.
Start working out. Build your confidence. Fix your habits.
She needs to see—from a distance—that you’re becoming the man she wanted you to be.
Not for her.
For you.
➡️ You might like: How to Get Her Interested in You Again
3. Post (Subtly) About Your Upgrades
No need to spam selfies or fake happiness.
But a quiet flex—a photo of you hiking, cooking, smiling with friends—does the trick.
Let her see that you’re not broken. You’re living.
And more importantly… you’re improving.
4. Don’t Talk Bad About Her New Guy
If she’s dating someone new, don’t trash talk him.
Don’t compare. Don’t ask questions. Don’t stalk his profile.
Why?
Because nothing screams desperation like jealousy.
Most rebound relationships fade—especially when you don’t get in the way.
5. Rebuild Emotional Connection (Not Flirting Yet)
Wait until you’ve had space. Then send something subtle and low-pressure:
- A funny memory
- A picture of something you both loved
- A short, thoughtful check-in
The goal is not to flirt.
The goal is to warm up the connection—to make her feel again.
➡️ Try this approach: How to Text Your Ex to Reignite the Spark
6. Flirt Like You’re Starting Fresh
Once she starts responding positively, don’t fall back into “boyfriend mode.”
Don’t rehash the breakup. Don’t apologize again. Don’t get emotional.
Instead—flirt.
Be playful. Tease her. Spark her curiosity again.
➡️ Need inspiration? Try these: Funny Jokes to Make Her Laugh Over Text
7. Don’t Rush or Beg—Attraction Takes Space
Even if it’s going well, don’t rush it.
If she backs off again, give her more space. Let her miss you.
Begging ruins the mystery.
Confidence respects timing.
➡️ Want to re-attract her through texting? Use this: Swipe Seduction
How to Make an Ex Girlfriend Want You Back Is Not Easy
If you want your ex girlfriend to want you back, you have to stop trying to convince her.
She has to feel something again.
That happens when you stop chasing and start rising.
You don’t need to impress her.
You need to rebuild the version of you that impressed her in the first place.
Let her watch. Let her wonder.
And when the time’s right… let her reach out.
Dating Coach Rickard Österholm
About the author
Rickard is our dating expert here at Chi Rho Dating since 2013, a vlogger with his own show on Youtube, and a podcaster. Rickard has been featured on DatingNews.Com, and GoodMenProject.Com.